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Revision as of 10:59, 10 April 2018

…working and living with others.

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Spending your limited time on the things that really matter creates a more intentional and solid yes, builds trust and coherence.

If you believe that you must keep your promises, overdeliver and treat every commitment as though it's an opportunity for a transformation, the only way you can do this is to turn down most opportunities.

No I can't meet with you, no I can't sell it to you at this price, no I can't do this job justice, no I can't come to your party, no I can't help you. I'm sorry, but no, I can't. Not if I want to do the very things that people value my work for.

No is the foundation that we can build our yes on.

Here are nine practices to say a strategic no in order to create space in your life for a more intentional yes.

  1. Know your no. Identify what's important to you and acknowledge what's not.
  2. Be appreciative.
  3. Say no to the request, not the person.
  4. Explain why.
  5. Be as resolute as they are pushy.
  6. Practice.
  7. Establish a pre-emptive no.
  8. Be prepared to miss out.
  9. Gather your courage.

Say no to all issues that do not align with values, goals and norms—that fall outside the tolerance of your self or your organization.

  • To say “Yes” is about quantity.
  • To say “No” is about quality.
  • To say “No” gives certainty, dependability, safety and sureness.

Approach (similar to consent process):

  1. Actively listen to the other's question.
  2. Say “No’”.
  3. Show understanding for any response or reaction.
  4. Provide a focused motivation of your “No”.
  5. Find a solution.
  6. Track progress.

Make it easy and safe for people to say “No” to you, too. Otherwise, first time you notice your plans are wrong is when it is too late.

Each time you say yes, remember to also say no to something else.

Therefore:

Listen to the other's request and provide an understanding “No”, along with its motivation. Find a solution and track progress.

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Saying "yes" to one thing is simultaneously saying "not right now" to many things.
@wovchko
You have to say no to a lot of good things in order to be able to say yes to a lot of great things
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