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|therefore in a single line=Listen to the other's request and provide an understanding “No”, along with its motivation. Find a solution and track progress.
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|wish=Spending your limited time on the things that really matter creates a more intentional and solid yes, builds trust and coherence.
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|wish full=Spending your limited time on the things that really matter creates a more intentional and solid yes, builds trust and coherence.
|background=Here are nine practices to say a strategic no in order to create space in your life for a more intentional yes.
|background=Here are nine practices to say a strategic no in order to create space in your life for a more intentional yes.
#Know your no. Identify what's important to you and acknowledge what's not.
#Know your no. Identify what's important to you and acknowledge what's not.
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#Find a solution.
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#Track progress.
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==Sources==
==Sources==

Revision as of 19:35, 26 May 2013

…working and living with others.

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Spending your limited time on the things that really matter creates a more intentional and solid yes, builds trust and coherence.

Here are nine practices to say a strategic no in order to create space in your life for a more intentional yes.

  1. Know your no. Identify what's important to you and acknowledge what's not.
  2. Be appreciative.
  3. Say no to the request, not the person.
  4. Explain why.
  5. Be as resolute as they are pushy.
  6. Practice.
  7. Establish a pre-emptive no.
  8. Be prepared to miss out.
  9. Gather your courage.

Say no to all issues that do not align with values, goals and norms—that fall outside the tolerance of your self or your organization.

  • To say “Yes” is about quantity.
  • To say “No” is about quality.
  • To say “No” gives certainty, dependability, safety and sureness.

Approach (similar to consent process):

  1. Actively listen to the other's question.
  2. Say “No’”.
  3. Show understanding for any response or reaction.
  4. Provide a focused motivation of your “No”.
  5. Find a solution.
  6. Track progress.

Therefore:

Listen to the other's request and provide an understanding “No”, along with its motivation. Find a solution and track progress.

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Sources