Integrating statement leaps forward

…during allies experience differences people start recycling earlier statements which usually indicates that a spectrum of views is now on the table. No one has more to add. To move one, all the group needs is an integrating statement.

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Forces:

• Polarized groups often get stuck in tense “either/or” conversations. An integrating statement takes the form of a “both/and” comment, recognizing that each side of a polarity has validity.
• When you wait long enough for a dialogue to run its course, a group member will nearly always volunteer an integrating statement.

Therefore:

Discipline to just stand there when you notice that the flock is circling around earlier statements to create space for anyone to speak up and utter a integrative both-and statement.

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Fortunately, you will find many natural integrators in groups. This will shift the energy in the room towards closure and action-orientation.

Suppose no one comes forward? Well, in a pinch, you can always state the obvious. “We hear two points of view, A and B. What would you like to do with these?”

When all else fails, consult group members on what they want to do.

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Sources

• Don’t just do something, stand there!—Ten Principles for Leading Meetings That Matter by Marvin Weisbord, Sandra Janoff